When a woman becomes a mum...

When a woman becomes a mum she becomes even more powerful. She might feel the opposite during the postpartum period but she is so SO powerful. In the early month of postpartum I had this thought that when a woman becomes a mum it feels like she is "reduced" to this role in the eyes of society. I could have stopped this thought at that but I wondered why do we have thoughts like this: "I am JUST a mum". Why do we have this automatic use of word. "Just" a mum does not seem right. I kept bouncing this around in my head, and I let it germinate. It germinated, and germinated... and I think without trying to make it too complicated: "Just" a mum comes from a patriarchal thought. A woman loses her appeal in the eyes of society because she isn't"owned" anymore by society, by her work, by how others see her. Once she start gaining back her power after the period of adapting to her new facet, she realises that she has her own life, and she always had. Becoming a mum shows her that she is her own person and not an outlet for society. She does not have to be anything to anyone, she is a mum and all the other things she decides to be. I think this is what is scary to the patriarchy. Patriarchy is loosing a pawn. Even women that have not been obnoxious to how society treats women, can feel it I think. In other cultures, a mum is sacred, is strong and supported. In ours, she is put aside, and asked to choose, or fulfil every single role that is awaiting for her and if she is not, she is failing. Or even "punished" indirectly for having children (at work for example). I am not writing this as a "victim" at all, I feel quite in my power writing this as Motherhood has given me a confidence I have been looking for my whole life.

Noah and me shooting for BShirt

I am writing this in the hope to empower women that feel the weight of how the mother role is seen. Do not let it affect you, you are a mother, the most beautiful role, you have so much influence on how the world goes around, and they label it "Being JUST a mum" because they could never have as much power as you now. Taping in the feminine energy of motherhood is feeling the power within us growing because we emancipate ourselves from the grips that patriarchy had on us until now. We build our matriarchy within our family and it is liberating: Here we are: reconnecting with our autonomy and power.